Different views about silence:
- Emily: Denial is Gangrene.
- Obasan: steadfast silence. inviolate (225). "Kodomo no tame"
- Naomi: end of chap 35: "Her tale is a rose with a tangled stem. All this questioning, this clawing at her grave, is an unseemly thing."
- Grandma Kato: -- "however much the effort to forget, there is no forgetfulness"(281)--release the burden of memory with writing
- Different descriptions/images of the mother
- in the dream: a rose with a tangle stem
- chap 38:
- tide rushing away from the shore,
- Canadian maple tree
- long black hair falling --> Maypole Mother;
- tree trunk, --> dead tree
- chap 39 p. 244: a light piece of music, more sad than happy, but quiet and dignified, a gentle tune, hiding the cacophony life wrote in their bones.
- scarecrow Grief with gentle eyes pp. 245-46
Reconciliation and Survival: "The song of mourning is not a lifelong song."
- remembering--personal memorial service to the dead (Mother, Father, Uncle--all the "absences")
re-membering--two ideographs for love--·R ÅÊ--¨t--kei as in nikkei--family lineage--a symbolic act to reweave the family unravel by the war and to weave nikkei into the tapestry of Canadian history (King-Kok Cheung)- confirming two kinds of love and two languages
- accepting the mother's quiet tune
- Fill the emptiness of Grief with "flesh": the forest where colours meet, where there are berries, the coulie where there are roses and wildflowers.
- Naomi in Aunt Emily's clothes.