Family


Poster¡G Lynx Huang at 12:30:18 12/29/97 from c550-24.svdcc.fju.edu.tw
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I'm going to talk about the subject, family. It includes the relation between parents and children and that between husband and wife. 
In "The Lottery", Tessie did not want to be the scapegoat who would be thrown to death for the village to have heavy harvest; however, unlike most mothers, she hoped her children to also have the chance to have the lottery. Most mothers are so great that they always would like to protect their children even they know they might get hurt or even die in the process of protecting them. I heard a report about an infant who was thrown on a trash car right after being cut off her funiculus. When she was taken back into the hospital, her color was purple. She was died for lack of breath. I believe the normal public blamed the mother's cruelty because even she was in great troubles, she shouldn't have done that. 
Emily and Paul both afraid of their own father. There are both similarities and differences between them. Emily did not dare to do anything against her father until he was died. After his death, she began not only to have dates but with the person in the lower class. Emily was controlled by her father while Paul secretively did what he wanted, such as being an usher at Carnegie Hall and living a luxurious life by stealing money. Emily's whole life was controlled by her father even after his death for Emily killed her lover and herself both resulted from being affected by her father. If she did not be affected but had her own mind after her father's death, she should live well for her own happy life. On the other hand, it's ironic that Paul felt a little regretful for a short time right after he had committed suicide though he had more freedom to choose than Emily. It may reveal that although it's good to have one's own free mind, one need to take the responsibility for the results. 
Wives have usually been under the control of traditions which were made by husbands, and the situation is less serious the recent years, luckily. In "The Yellow Wallpaper", the wife was afraid of the yellow wallpaper, which is a metaphor of her husband's control. And then she was accustomed to it, and destroyed it at the end. She may really got crazy, but she also got rid of control. In the poem "Aunt Jennifer's Tigers", Jennifer's way to release her pressure caused by her husband was to embroider tigers which would go on prancing, pround and unafraid. Nowadays, there are still some wives suffered from their husbands' violence and rabidity. Communication does not work, divorce is inaccessible, and maybe more tragical situations added together to drive the wives into madness to kill the husbands. Men, don't even try that again, or you'll feel regretful, definitely. 
It goes without saying that modern parents are not going to be like ancient ones, but some of them still have some similar concepts as ancient ones'. In "My Papa's Waltz", it seems to me that the father was not so close to the little boy unless he was drunk and wanted to dance with his son, therefore, the little boy treasure the time and still cling to his father's shirt on the bed after the dance. Modern fathers are more close to their children and talk to them the way they talk to their friends. They can communicate with each other, and the children do not have to obey wrong or unreasonable orders as in the ancient time. However, still some parents want to decide what to study and what job to take for their children. This situation is similar to that in ancient time offspring were always bound to do the same work their ancestors did. 
In a word, each of us should have the right to build his or her own will. Don't try to control or change others.