Trap or release the lovers

Poster¡G Christy at 15:5:33 3/16/98 from
'Trap or release the lovers" 
"The Farmer's Bride", "Porphyria's Lover", and "My Last Duchess" are three poems with similar themes: 'love' and 'violence'. The three poets' perspectives towards love are almost the same. They desire for the whole spiritual love from their loves, otherwise, they will use violence to take control of the lovers. 
In "The Farmer's Bride", the farmer chose a young maid to be his wife in order to help him out during harvest time. Without 'bide and woo', or may be she was too young to get married, 'she turned afraid of love and me and all things human'. She ran away, but then the farmer 'caught her'. The farmer could not get the love from her, he did not chose to communicate with her, but to locked her up in a room. This even made her afraid of him. The wife was lonely and started to play with animals. 'The woman say that beasts in stall, look round like children at her call', the beasts were dangerous to human, but they were just like children to her, it made the situation become irony. 
Although the farmer trapped her physically, he could not proceed her love. 'She sleeps up in the attic there alone, poor maid. 'Tis but a stair between us'. There was a gap between them; he could not reach her heart. Then he started to feel guilty upon her; to lock her up the attic on Christmas-time made both of them feels lonely. 'Sweet as the first wild violets, she to her wild self. But what to me?', he seemed to show sympathy on her, and on himself at the same time. He knew that his violence upon her was useless and false, but as the maid has used value to him, he would not change his mind and let her free. 
In "Porphyria's Lover", Porphyria might come from upper class, 'from pride, and vainer ties dissever'. The speaker, though come from a lower class, wanted to proceed her. Although she 'murmuring how she loved me', 'and give herself to me forever', the speaker was afraid that he would loss her in some day. As he did not have self-confidence and weak, he described her as 'she, too weak, for all her heart's endeavor, to set its struggling passion free,' He even thought that Porphyria came to worship himself. 'That moment she was mine, mine, fair, perfectly pure and good', he could not let her go. As he wanted to keep this perfect moment forever, he strangled her. He did not feel guilty to what he did, he thought that 'she felt no pain'. 'The smiling rosy little head, so glad it has its utmost will', he even thought that he was helping her to strengthen her 'weak-will'. The speaker, the lover of Porphyria, did not regret to use violence while he could not get her love. 
In "My Last Duchess", the Dutch, who could not control over his wife and got the whole attention from her, chose to kill her as an eternal way to proceed her. He kept her painting, and thought that she was standing 'as if alive'. It is an irony that he could proceed the whole of her ( picture) while she was died. He was the only one who can proceed her now; anyone can see her( picture) only though his permission. 
The Dutch never thought of what she really needed, the only thing he thought about was that marry her was a gift and favor to her. But his love was not rewarded; his wife loved all kinds of things such as 'the dropping of the daylight in the west, the bough of cherries some officious fool broke in the orchard for her, the white mule she rode with round the terrace'. He knew that he was just a part out of what she loved, so he used violence and made her die. He told the details to the servant as a warning to his next wife that he would keep on using violence if she love anything else. 
The three speakers ignored their lovers' felling. There were gaps between them, they were lack of communication, and this led to misunderstanding between them. The speakers used to tell the stories to them because they did not want to share their felling and to open their hearts to others.